If you are among people who never attain their purpose in life, the reason may be a few simple attitudes you have cultivated that is called ''dead weight." From experience I have found the four major dead weight that we must get rid of in our life in order to attain our goals. They are as follows:
1. Pain of change:
Sometimes we refuse to accept change because of our previous success that lead our confidence grew into the arrogance of success, therefore we become afraid of getting lost and making a fool of ourselves on our way to new direction that is unknown to us, we ask question like; is there any place better than where we are? Or even if there is, what if we don't find it, over analyzing the situation and becoming afraid of going into new direction and when fear grip us the next thing is we keep doing the same things over and over again and wonder why things don't get better instead of letting go what is behind and trusting what lay ahead for us. Remember, There is an element of pain in all change, but those you put into action yourself are far less painful that ones thrown at you by others. If this wasn't so ridiculous, it would be even funnier.
2. Self-Doubt:
When we're engrossed by negative conviction, we believe everything we do will be wrong. When we're thinking like this it is likely that everything we do fail, and ultimately, we fail. Instead of looking for what we did wrong, look at what you did right. Keep an ''up" attitude over come rejection, and keep trying. Soon, you'll start to win. The wins will start to pile up until they smother all self-doubt under a mountain of positive conviction.
3. Fear of failure:
How many times have you refuse to try something because you were afraid you'd fail? Isn't it sad how many of us doom ourselves to mediocre lives rather than accept the momentary rejections that success demands? We must challenge our fear and conquer each fear forever. Soon, you will find that every time you conquer a fear, the easier it will be to beat the next one. Remember: do what you fear most and you will control that fear.
4. Fear of losing our security:
We are so afraid of losing the security we have that we won't give it up to get the greater security we seek. I truly believe that there is no such thing as security other than the security we build within ourselves. We are only secure to the extent of our ability to cope with the struggle called living, and we cannot be more secure than our capabilities of handling insecurity allow us to be. This means we have to give up what we have, to get what we want. If we refuse to give up anything, where will the space, time, money, and energy for new achievement come from?